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Hey there.
My name is Felix.
I’m Trans, and I got my first proper binders a few weeks ago. I couldn’t be happier.
I had to fight for a year in order to get my hair cut short. And now a new battle is brewing.
Before I got them, I had a setup of five different sports bras. They hurt, bit into my sides, and left red marks and rashes. The marks in the second picture are left over from then, and they’ve gotten much better. It’s shrunk and started to fade. I couldn’t deal with that any longer.
I wore that for about a year.
I haven’t come out to my parents. They touched my stomach and felt the binder. They’re convinced it’ll give me breast cancer and have said I’m not allowed to wear it anymore. I will wear it, of course. I’m not going back to the sports bras.
I need a professional to explain to them that I’m trans. I told them that I’m asexual, and they told me I wasn’t an amoeba. I tried to teach them. They didn’t listen.
They won’t listen to me.
My mother said that the binder made me flat. They thought the binder was to keep me from looking fat. They always said that I’m chubby.
My mom now wants to take me girdle shopping, to suck in my stomach and accentuate my breasts. This is the exact opposite of what I want.
She said it compressed my boobs and flattened me out.
I decided to take a chance and said “What if I like that..”
She told me that I was a girl. And I should embrace being a girl.
She won’t listen to me alone. I need some support. I’m asking the various people at my school, including teachers, to help me fight for my right to wear what I need to to feel like myself. I’m part of the LGBT support at my school, but if you have any time, I would like some additional help to open their eyes.
What do you need us to do?
Honestly? Just reblogging. Showing support. They think that asexuality is just me “Trying to be unique”.
I’m not just trying to rebel, it’s just who I am.
There are other people that are in this community, I’m not just making something up, I’m not trying to be a special snowflake. This is a thing. A movement. It’s growing. It needs awareness, the binary isn’t enough.
*hugs from a local* I haven’t had to deal with something like this, and when I came out to my parents, it was in a moment where they asked me why a guy had stayed over when they were gone. It wasn’t the greatest, but I hope things go smoother than it did for me
Thanks so much, darling. We really should meet up at some point.
As one ace to another, I got your back
ALL MY FOLLOWERS PLEASE REBLOG AND SIGNAL BOOST THIS
Man oh man. there’s ignorance and then there’s a determination to be ignorant. This is the latter.
I hope your situation gets better.
If you manage to see this, or if anyone else sees this, whether you’re in a similar situation as this fine gentleman or not, my ask box is always open.
I feel you man. I mean, parents who don’t understand or don’t listen… is just the worse. My mother doesn’t listen to me about my depression and it hurts. I can’t even begin to image what you must be going through. *hugs* I hope it works out for you, with all my heart.