{"id":5263,"date":"2014-03-20T19:51:31","date_gmt":"2014-03-20T19:51:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/?p=5263"},"modified":"2015-02-21T06:23:35","modified_gmt":"2015-02-21T06:23:35","slug":"lierdumoa-nugget-basket","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/?p=5263","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-5263 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/?attachment_id=5264'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/tumblr_n1260gJSR31rfwfq9o1_1280-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/lierdumoa.tumblr.com\/post\/79870515641\/nugget-basket-the-unpopular-opinions-the\">lierdumoa<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/nugget-basket.tumblr.com\/post\/76794590316\/the-unpopular-opinions-the-opposite-end-of\">nugget-basket<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/the-unpopular-opinions.tumblr.com\/post\/76791821745\/the-opposite-end-of-traditional-street\">the-unpopular-opinions<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><strong>The Opposite end of traditional \u201cstreet harassment\u201d: the girl who never get\u2019s cat called<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn\u2019t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I \u00a0am not trying to play \u201cwho has it harder\u201d or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don\u2019t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.<\/p>\n<p>When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Some examples I\u2019ve personally experienced include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive\u00a0women\u00a0hugs, but won\u2019t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don\u2019t exist.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.<\/li>\n<li>One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.<\/li>\n<li>I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)<\/li>\n<li>Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don\u2019t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)<\/li>\n<li>I once went with my gay male friend to a straight\u00a0guys\u00a0house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy\u2019s mouth was \u201cI was totally excited when you had a chick with you.\u00a0Nevermind!\u201d\u00a0the whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn\u2019t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was \u201cdo you have any hot single friends that would come over here?\u201d<\/li>\n<li><span>Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was \u201che didn\u2019t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money\u201d that was until his guy friend from high school showed up\u00a0<\/span>unexpectedly<span>\u00a0and he quickly\u00a0bought him a drink.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question\u00a0is are\u00a0there any other \u201cunattractive\u201d girls out there that experience\u00a0things similar to this?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of \u201coo I want that.\u201d and not too many in the sense of \u201coo, ew DO NOT WANT\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>This may seem like a big long rant that looks like \u201cWAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON\u2019T OH MY LIFE SUCKS\u201d but I don\u2019t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don\u2019t do this just to get laid. This is where it\u2019s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren\u2019t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Misogyny affects \u00a0all women negatively.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>THIS IS IMPORTANT<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<div>As a woman who gained a lot of weight right out of high-school and spent 3 years in ill fitting clothes and various terrible haircuts, then lost the weight in her early twenties and drastically refined her look \u2014 I have lived both sides of this equation. And I think having experienced the dismissal makes it all the more glaringly obvious how hollow the so called \u201cpositive\u201d attention really is.<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>lierdumoa: nugget-basket: the-unpopular-opinions: The Opposite end of traditional \u201cstreet harassment\u201d: the girl who never get\u2019s cat called In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/?p=5263\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"gallery","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5263","post","type-post","status-publish","format-gallery","hentry","category-uncategorized","post_format-post-format-gallery"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5263","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5263"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5263\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5265,"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5263\/revisions\/5265"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5263"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5263"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/renne.finalknight.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5263"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}